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Finding Real Love
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Human beings crave intimacy, to love and be loved.
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Why then do people feel isolated in their intimate relationships?
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We need to be close to other people as surely as we need food and water.
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But while it`s relatively easy to get ourselves a good meal, it is difficult for many of us to create and maintain intimacy with others, particularly a romantic partner.
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There are many variables that affect the quality of our relationships with others; it`s difficult to pin it on one thing or another.
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In the example, Tara needs to control her abandonment anxiety and not pursue Abe when he withdraws, and Abe needs to control his engulfment anxiety when Tara pursues him and not withdraw.
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Working to overcome these anxieties is an opportunity to resolve childhood issues and can be a major healing experience for both partners.
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